Paul giving a session

Lifelists: Home

AUDIO: "OK. Choose an option."

Response Options:

Whoops! How did I get here. Um....

Some of these lists have individual pages for each question, so that you can see/hear them one by one. Some of these lists exist as lists only.

Lists with individual item pages

  Holmes and Rahe stress scale
  Armed forces generally
  Salesperson (Audio on individual pages not yet done)

Lists only


  Software developer
  Student (high school)
  Trouble at work

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Use this page if you have some list of items that doesn't exist as a formal page here. Even a paper list is fine. Anything that prompts some charged "topic" to come to view, which you can then run with.

If ready for Phase 3

Pick the lifelist you are going to be working with. The link will automatically lead in to the handling steps, not just the initial question(s).

General before specialist

Do the relevant general one before a specialized one, as the specialist list will not include most of the questions in the general list. For example, do the general Army list before a specialist Armor Crewman list.

Lifelists are for Phase 3

Doing a lifelist is a Phase 3 activity. If you are not fine with Phases 0, 1 and 2 it will not only be a waste of time but you may end up feeling worse for a while until things cool off for you. As a reminder:


Phase 0 is a pre-requisite to all the others. The others are not mutually exclusive, in that it is possible for someone to have part of their "baggage" open to Phase 3 work, but still have areas that are untouchable beyond a light Phase 1 Reach & Withdraw approach. However, Phase 2 and Phase 3 work both require that the client is successful at "letting-go" and at Rub & Yawn.

Phase 0

The client needs to be genuinely, no-fake:
  1. willing to follow the instructions, and
  2. as "sessionable" as possible.

Phase 1

  1. Get familiar with the procedures, what the client needs to DO
  2. In session, Reach & Withdraw on "the hot mess" until able to isolate and work with individual topics
  3. Simultaneously, get into the groove of "letting go," and using the Rub & Yawn discharge mechanism. This means actually being able to do it, not just read about it.
There is little point in continuing unless all points are working, at least to some extent.

Phase 2

In session, discharge the most-available hot topics, the low-hanging fruit. Do them in the sequence they present themselves. Maybe topic #1 will present itself to be cooled off a lot, maybe you'll just be able to take the edge off topic #1 before topic #2 is demanding to be addressed. Go with the flow. Continue discharging hot topics demanding to be addressed until ready for Phase 3.

If you go to Phase 3 too soon, then you won't really be able to address anything in Phase 3 without Phase 2 topics leaping in and grabbing your attention too much to continue with Phase 3.