Rub & Yawn Tips 1-4
Tip #1: Any Rub & Yawn is better than no Rub & Yawn.
Can be done very sloppilyRub & Yawn does not have to be done in a formal session.
For example, you’re watching TV. You happen to yawn. You notice that you just got reminded of a failed relationship. Now you get pro-active. You rub your hands together firmly with attention still on the relationship. You yawn some more. You keep rubbing and yawning, looking at different aspects of the relationship. It’s more interesting than the repeat on TV. After ten minutes, your kid comes in and wants to play. You feel somewhat better anyway, and start playing with your kid instead.
Maybe you decide to finish off the topic later. Maybe you forget about it. Either way, next time you get reminded of that failed relationship it shouldn’t feel so bad.
This is explained more fully in the right-hand column of the Rub & Yawn page here.
Tip #2: Rub & Yawn has three parts — rubbing, visualizing, yawning. Do all three.
Rubbing"Rubbing" includes stretching*. You should rub fairly vigorously, and fairly continuously, not just a few times. Rub or stretch in whatever way feels right to you.
VisualizingVisualizing has many possibilities, but they each include pro-actively manipulating parts of your unpleasant mental images, not just being at the effect of them.
VerbalizationVerbalization is often useful in addition, maybe writing down notes or a journal or even just talking to the wall. Talking to friends is sometimes helpful, but usually they are not trained counsellors and will often interrupt or tell their own experiences instead of simply listening attentively and showing that they understand.
Yawning"Yawning" includes sighing, cathartic crying, belching etc. In other words, obvious bodily discharge.
*Stretching seems to be more of a discharge mechanism than an energy-intake stimulator, but the distinction is probably not that important. Just remember to stretch too.
Tip #3: Go with the flow on what you are visualizing.Parallel the mind — work with the topic that your attention is naturally being drawn to. Don’t address something merely because it is the next on the list or someone said you should. If it is pressed up against your nose as the thing to address, do it!
Topic will change as it dischargesSome aspect of the overall topic will appear as most important. Address that exact aspect with Rub & Yawn. It should be intense. As you discharge it, it will become less important and some other aspect will appear as most important. Address both aspects if you can, but soon the old one will be hard to concentrate on. So address the new aspect fully. And so on until the session is obviously over, often within 20 minutes.
Your mind is your mind — not a movieWhen running an event/incident or series of events/incidents, first address whichever aspect of it is demanding your attention. This may be the earliest moment of the event. Or it may be something in the middle or the end. Again, go with the flow, not some arbitrary sequence. The emotional charge associated with the event is stacked up in a particular order in your mind. This is not necessarily from beginning to end like a regular movie.
Go with the flow.
Tip #4: Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.Find a hot topic that will discharge right now. Start visualizing and rubbing and yawning. Intensely. Continue the three parts of Rub & Yawn on that topic until it won’t discharge any more right now. You should feel calm and expansive. That’s all for now. It might take 10-25 minutes if you have been working hard on a really hot topic.
Check it out and seeMaybe another time there is nothing obviously hot to address. You decide to have a go at Topic X. You don’t know if it will work or not. So try it out. Do a proper visualization, maybe using the 6-direction technique, while rubbing vigorously. Usually a minute is long enough to see if any yawn/discharge will occur.
If it's hot, stick with itIf it’s hot and it discharges, go with it. Continue doing Rub & Yawn right now on that topic. If there is no yawn or discharge after a minute, and no obvious signs that there is about to be one, drop it immediately. Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.
Keep going with a session that is producing a good discharge, good yawns. The yawns will taper off after 10 minutes, 20 minutes, and then you will not be able to squeeze out any more. Great! Done deal. It’s not hot any more, so don’t try and run it any more.
Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.
Rub & Yawn Tips 5-8
Tip #5: Choose the best Rub & Yawn tool for the job.
PaulsRobot3 currently has 29 different modules available, again all useful in different situations. The modules include Core, Morph, Pono, RAWRogers, Rog, Rizzo, Slate, Antago, BasicR3X, ColorBreathing, Dipoles, ExpARCSW, ExpGrade0, False Data Stripping, HeavyDuty, IntExtStay, List1, Mega, NotTooShabbyPower, Prez (Presence Processes), Psycho, Ruds/L1C/Prepcheck, Ush (Unpleasant Sensation Handling), Ush2, Win, Win2, LovedOne, RAW4 (Reach & Withdraw 4), SpotAnAngel and others. Each of these modules may have 100 or more different pages. Every module has audio.
There is a huge toolbox available for your use. Choose the best Rub & Yawn tool for the job.
Tip #6: Suddenly falling asleep? Stand up! Touch stuff! Hard! Right now!We’re talking about mentally shutting down, "doping off" or "going anaten" as it is sometimes called. This happens in life too, not just in session. It’s when your attention suddenly goes out of your control and you get all foggy and if you don’t do something about it immediately you’re likely to fall asleep on the spot. It’s not harmful unless you’re driving a car or something, but it wastes your time. This is different from simply feeling tired because it’s been a long day and it’s time for bed.
The shutting-down phenomenon is what can make "solo processing" (mental drills by yourself) very hard to do. Touching stuff forcefully right now is the solution to this difficulty.
You know that being slapped around the face or having a bucket of cold water thrown over you would wake you up, but that is not too real. A very workable solution is to stand up if you can, and urgently contact things around you like the chair or table or floor. Stamp your feet. Hit your hands together. Squeeze the chair. Bang your hand on the table. Make loud noises. This sort of thing.
Do this for a short while, maybe a minute, and you will stop shutting down, and get back to normal.
Temporary solution only, but it IS a solutionNow, whatever it was that caused the shutting down to occur is still there and might trigger a shutting down later. If you know the area, you can have a go at it with proper three-part Rub & Yawn procedure. And if appropriate you definitely should discharge it as you know it is very hot!
But do recognize that it is very hot, and sometimes it will start to flatten you and you will have to take this action very fast to stay on top of it while doing regular Rub & Yawn on a topic. That's why the "Stand up!" is in there — it is very hard (but not impossible) to fall asleep when you are standing up.
Remember: Suddenly falling asleep? Stand up! Touch stuff! Hard! Right now!
Tip #7: Don't confuse Rub & Yawn with other procedures.Rub & Yawn has its own tried and tested techniques. It seems to work on a wide variety of people and case types, provided they follow the instructions. :)
Deciding it couldn’t possibly work (without trying it) because it doesn’t agree with some theory is short-sighted. It was developed empirically by observing some natural phenomena and trying out different things. It wasn’t developed to accord with pre-existing theory.
It is new. It is a 21st century development.
Don’t confuse Rub & Yawn with other procedures.
Tip #8: Make Rub & Yawn a part of your regular life.It is very useful. It is for both emergency use and long-term use, for you and your family and friends. Show others how to use it. Email or tweet or text the links to them. Don’t just use it once and then forget about it.
Here is a useful program to follow:
Don’t simply have one session and forget about it. Make Rub & Yawn a part of your regular life.